Here is part 2 of my fertility questions and also a place where you can ask your own.
Don’t be shy! Other women are probably facing the same issues you are.
Also, you can remain anonymous if you like.
Question: My husband and I have been trying for a baby for about a year now, and nothing has happened. It seems like everyone around us is having babies except us. I have been told that I am able to have babies, it’s just going to take longer due to my cycle.
I no longer have insurance through my job and it makes it difficult to ask questions or get the advice I need. My cycle tends to be every other month between the 14th and 18th, which is the most regular it has ever been.
I am in my mid twenties, and I know that I still have plenty of time to become a mom, but I’m not sure how much longer I can wait. Please help me! (Jessica – Michigan)
My Answer: Jessica – I’m sorry you’re having difficulties. I know it’s hard to be patient.
Let me ask you a couple questions for you to help me understand your situation better.
* Do you know why your cycles are irregular?
* Are you overweight?
* How is your diet?
* How much caffeine/alcohol do you consume?
* Do you smoke?
* Are you using any ovulation prediction methods? If so, are you ovulating each month?
* Are you on any medications for any reason?
* Any health conditions?
Your answer to these questions could help me to better assist you.
Jessica: My cycles aren’t too irregular – they just come every other month on the 18th. I’m of average weight for my height. I eat 3 meals a day, and I never eat out. I could eat a little healthier though.
I drink one to two cups of caffeine a day. I smoke, but I’m on the road to quitting. I’m not using a prediction method. I’m not on any medications and have no health conditions. Thanks!
My Answer: Three things I would recommend right away:
1) Stop smoking completely.
2) Cut down on caffeine.
3) Use at least one ovulation predictor method. I used 3 – BBT charting, cervical mucus observation, and ovulation predictor kits. I talk about this more in the “How To Get Pregnant” section of this site.
It may take a few months to get a good idea of when you’re ovulating and get the nicotine out of your system, but this will definitely improve your chances of conceiving.
Question: I am suffering from vaginal dryness and using lubricants – lubic gel for intercourse.
It’s going to be our 4th year of marriage and we are badly waiting for a child, but no result.
I had done all my tests and even took one cycle of IUI, but with no result. I fear it may be due to lack of cervical mucus the sperm is not able to swim, which is in turn affecting the chances of getting pregnant.
Before the doctor put me on Clomid for 5 months, telling me that I have a low progesterone level, but during IUI the doctor told me my condition is perfectly normal. I had an HSG done, and that also was normal.
My Answer: I’m not familiar with Lubic gel. Is this a gel prescribed by your doctor?
Most lubricants are not sperm friendly and actually will kill or damage sperm. Preseed lubricant is one that is sperm friendly and can be used safely while trying to conceive. (You can buy Preseed here.)
Cervical mucus is necessary in order for the sperm to travel to their destination to fertilize the awaiting egg.
Lack of cervical mucus can be a hormone issue or it can be simply a dehydration issue.
If you haven’t gotten full blood work done already, I would do that first.
Then I would concentrate on cutting back on caffeine and alcohol (or quitting altogether) and drinking lots of water, especially around ovulation time.
Make sure your timing is focused by having intercourse 2 to 3 times leading up to ovulation. If you don’t know when you ovulate, it is very important to use a couple different methods (outlined here) in order to know when to focus on baby-making intercourse.